A human man did not make this meme, obviously
Uhh, OK?
Not really but thanks for asking
Yeah…I don’t really understand this meme. Is this common for other guys? To see a girl who checks all his boxes and then just reject her for no reason?
Having been the “checks all the boxes they say they want” lady, this actually kinda checks out.
Because in practice, it’s not what a lot of folks expect. So you get rejected (after putting in effort) for being what they asked for.
Depends on your level of introspection. A really average dude with a mediocre lifestyle and interests might very well think that a woman who checks all the boxes is either out of reach or will inevitably grow disappointed being with a very plain guy who “can’t keep up” so to say.
I found this on reddit and thought others might also find this relatable but guess not.
Some context would go a long way I think.
I’m a short guy in my mid-30s from India, from a middle class family. Indian middle class. Not Western middle class. We don’t own any vehicle and live in a house that was bought by my grandparents about 40 years back.
Here dating culture is still niche. More than 90% marriages here are arranged marriages.
When I go to dating apps I usually see women who are out of my league. Not just because they’re very beautiful. They are lawyers, doctors, have their own business or some fancy titles. They have photos taken at exotic locations (I’ve never been to any proper vacation, in or out of the country).
So when I come across such profiles, I just reject myself on their behalf because they’re never going to swipe right on me.
Anyway, I believe now its time to abandon this account because I’ve given too much personal information just to explain a fucking meme.
Shoot you shot. Stop feeling sorry for yourself. Stop underestimating yourself.
I’m not feeling sorry for myself. I’m being realistic.
Swipe right, dude. You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take. Best of luck. 🩷
No
That just means you need to have something more to offer them than money. Women want a partner, not a provider. They want someone they can talk to, who will treat them as an equal and defer to their expertise when situations call for it, but challenge them to learn and grow when it’s called for. Partnership is mutually beneficial. And they want this regardless of the culture/country they come from.
They want to be treated like equal people. If you can do that you’ll be just fine, I promise the bar is super low globally. You’ll find the right person for you if you treat them like people; that’s all they are and they like being treated that way.
This sounds like a therapist could absolutely change your life.
First, women being „out of your league“ is a pop culture idiocy. If she likes you, she does. Its not about looks or height or success, its about personality. To cultivate that you need to kearn to accept (not reject) yourself. I can totally see how a country with this strong a social divide would foster such beliefs in people.
Also, its important to find out what you like. She doesnt have to be „traditionally pretty“ or „stunning“ or „beautiful“. Its important that she (or he, just to address that as well) lights a spark in you. You mifht find her attractive while most others dont and thats no problem. You might just be amazed by how smart and whitty she is, even if she cant hold a proper job (or vice versa).
The biggest mistakes I made in life were pressuring myself to be someone and find someone particular in terms of status and looks. First I gave up the status idea, then I found out that „beautiful for me“ is something entirely different.
This is obviously just my opinion and a friendly suggestion. Do what you want with it but please be nice to yourself. Have a great day.
Eh. Just give it a shot bro. Never know. Especially on fuckin tinder. and lol you haven’t said enough to need to abandon your account
Eh. Just give it a shot bro. Never know.
Nah. I know I will be rejected.
lol even if you are…its fucking tinder dude. its not like you even have to worry about some cringy horrid face to face rejection
You never know if you don’t try : )
Stop with the platitudes.
So when I come across such profiles, I just reject myself on their behalf because they’re never going to swipe right on me.
I know life can be tough, and I obviously don’t know your whole picture, but you need to work on leaving this way of thinking behind. Shoot your shots, man - in dating and in life.
Who cares if they swipe right or left? If they swipe left (left is “no” I assume?) then chances are you probably wouldn’t enjoy being around that person anyway, right?
But maybe there’s a woman out there that likes your particular style of being a human. Looks aren’t everything - really they account for very little overall, despite dating apps putting so much emphasis on them.
Just be you, be positive, enjoy your life, and people will naturally want to spend their time with you regardless of how you look or how much money you have.
Looks aren’t everything
Did you read what I wrote? I already addressed this.
When I go to dating apps I usually see women who are out of my league. Not just because they’re very beautiful. They are lawyers, doctors, have their own business or some fancy titles. They have photos taken at exotic locations (I’ve never been to any proper vacation, in or out of the country).
Right - but that isn’t all I said.
Relatable. I like it. I totally feel this way. Whoever did this made me feel seen. Except the height part.
Everyone is saying that the meme makes no sense but it’s totally me… And it’s not even a question of her being “out of my league” in my case. I just find (or make up…) a reason to swipe left. Usually channeling my inner social Marie Kondo and saying “this one does not spark joy”. I was swiping right on under 6% of profiles I saw (I asked for my stats before leaving Tinder)
It meant that over a period of one month of using Tinder, I only got a single match. This did not help my self esteem at all (despite being a problem of my own making!) so I decided to just quit Tinder for now. In reality, my unreasonable selectivity is just a symptom that I’m not ready to date right now. My plan is to keep healing (I’m in therapy too) and eventually return to the world of dating apps, this time with a different mindset.
