I found this on reddit and thought others might also find this relatable but guess not.
Some context would go a long way I think.
I’m a short guy in my mid-30s from India, from a middle class family. Indian middle class. Not Western middle class. We don’t own any vehicle and live in a house that was bought by my grandparents about 40 years back.
Here dating culture is still niche. More than 90% marriages here are arranged marriages.
When I go to dating apps I usually see women who are out of my league. Not just because they’re very beautiful. They are lawyers, doctors, have their own business or some fancy titles. They have photos taken at exotic locations (I’ve never been to any proper vacation, in or out of the country).
So when I come across such profiles, I just reject myself on their behalf because they’re never going to swipe right on me.
Anyway, I believe now its time to abandon this account because I’ve given too much personal information just to explain a fucking meme.
So when I come across such profiles, I just reject myself on their behalf because they’re never going to swipe right on me.
I know life can be tough, and I obviously don’t know your whole picture, but you need to work on leaving this way of thinking behind. Shoot your shots, man - in dating and in life.
Who cares if they swipe right or left? If they swipe left (left is “no” I assume?) then chances are you probably wouldn’t enjoy being around that person anyway, right?
But maybe there’s a woman out there that likes your particular style of being a human. Looks aren’t everything - really they account for very little overall, despite dating apps putting so much emphasis on them.
Just be you, be positive, enjoy your life, and people will naturally want to spend their time with you regardless of how you look or how much money you have.
Did you read what I wrote? I already addressed this.
When I go to dating apps I usually see women who are out of my league. Not just because they’re very beautiful. They are lawyers, doctors, have their own business or some fancy titles. They have photos taken at exotic locations (I’ve never been to any proper vacation, in or out of the country).
That just means you need to have something more to offer them than money. Women want a partner, not a provider. They want someone they can talk to, who will treat them as an equal and defer to their expertise when situations call for it, but challenge them to learn and grow when it’s called for. Partnership is mutually beneficial. And they want this regardless of the culture/country they come from.
They want to be treated like equal people. If you can do that you’ll be just fine, I promise the bar is super low globally. You’ll find the right person for you if you treat them like people; that’s all they are and they like being treated that way.
This sounds like a therapist could absolutely change your life.
First, women being „out of your league“ is a pop culture idiocy. If she likes you, she does. Its not about looks or height or success, its about personality. To cultivate that you need to kearn to accept (not reject) yourself. I can totally see how a country with this strong a social divide would foster such beliefs in people.
Also, its important to find out what you like. She doesnt have to be „traditionally pretty“ or „stunning“ or „beautiful“. Its important that she (or he, just to address that as well) lights a spark in you. You mifht find her attractive while most others dont and thats no problem. You might just be amazed by how smart and whitty she is, even if she cant hold a proper job (or vice versa).
The biggest mistakes I made in life were pressuring myself to be someone and find someone particular in terms of status and looks. First I gave up the status idea, then I found out that „beautiful for me“ is something entirely different.
This is obviously just my opinion and a friendly suggestion. Do what you want with it but please be nice to yourself. Have a great day.
I found this on reddit and thought others might also find this relatable but guess not.
Some context would go a long way I think.
I’m a short guy in my mid-30s from India, from a middle class family. Indian middle class. Not Western middle class. We don’t own any vehicle and live in a house that was bought by my grandparents about 40 years back.
Here dating culture is still niche. More than 90% marriages here are arranged marriages.
When I go to dating apps I usually see women who are out of my league. Not just because they’re very beautiful. They are lawyers, doctors, have their own business or some fancy titles. They have photos taken at exotic locations (I’ve never been to any proper vacation, in or out of the country).
So when I come across such profiles, I just reject myself on their behalf because they’re never going to swipe right on me.
Anyway, I believe now its time to abandon this account because I’ve given too much personal information just to explain a fucking meme.
Eh. Just give it a shot bro. Never know. Especially on fuckin tinder. and lol you haven’t said enough to need to abandon your account
Nah. I know I will be rejected.
You never know if you don’t try : )
Stop with the platitudes.
lol even if you are…its fucking tinder dude. its not like you even have to worry about some cringy horrid face to face rejection
I know life can be tough, and I obviously don’t know your whole picture, but you need to work on leaving this way of thinking behind. Shoot your shots, man - in dating and in life.
Who cares if they swipe right or left? If they swipe left (left is “no” I assume?) then chances are you probably wouldn’t enjoy being around that person anyway, right?
But maybe there’s a woman out there that likes your particular style of being a human. Looks aren’t everything - really they account for very little overall, despite dating apps putting so much emphasis on them.
Just be you, be positive, enjoy your life, and people will naturally want to spend their time with you regardless of how you look or how much money you have.
Did you read what I wrote? I already addressed this.
Right - but that isn’t all I said.
Shoot you shot. Stop feeling sorry for yourself. Stop underestimating yourself.
I’m not feeling sorry for myself. I’m being realistic.
That just means you need to have something more to offer them than money. Women want a partner, not a provider. They want someone they can talk to, who will treat them as an equal and defer to their expertise when situations call for it, but challenge them to learn and grow when it’s called for. Partnership is mutually beneficial. And they want this regardless of the culture/country they come from.
They want to be treated like equal people. If you can do that you’ll be just fine, I promise the bar is super low globally. You’ll find the right person for you if you treat them like people; that’s all they are and they like being treated that way.
Swipe right, dude. You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take. Best of luck. 🩷
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This sounds like a therapist could absolutely change your life.
First, women being „out of your league“ is a pop culture idiocy. If she likes you, she does. Its not about looks or height or success, its about personality. To cultivate that you need to kearn to accept (not reject) yourself. I can totally see how a country with this strong a social divide would foster such beliefs in people.
Also, its important to find out what you like. She doesnt have to be „traditionally pretty“ or „stunning“ or „beautiful“. Its important that she (or he, just to address that as well) lights a spark in you. You mifht find her attractive while most others dont and thats no problem. You might just be amazed by how smart and whitty she is, even if she cant hold a proper job (or vice versa).
The biggest mistakes I made in life were pressuring myself to be someone and find someone particular in terms of status and looks. First I gave up the status idea, then I found out that „beautiful for me“ is something entirely different.
This is obviously just my opinion and a friendly suggestion. Do what you want with it but please be nice to yourself. Have a great day.