• haui@lemmy.giftedmc.com
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    6 months ago

    This sounds like a therapist could absolutely change your life.

    First, women being „out of your league“ is a pop culture idiocy. If she likes you, she does. Its not about looks or height or success, its about personality. To cultivate that you need to kearn to accept (not reject) yourself. I can totally see how a country with this strong a social divide would foster such beliefs in people.

    Also, its important to find out what you like. She doesnt have to be „traditionally pretty“ or „stunning“ or „beautiful“. Its important that she (or he, just to address that as well) lights a spark in you. You mifht find her attractive while most others dont and thats no problem. You might just be amazed by how smart and whitty she is, even if she cant hold a proper job (or vice versa).

    The biggest mistakes I made in life were pressuring myself to be someone and find someone particular in terms of status and looks. First I gave up the status idea, then I found out that „beautiful for me“ is something entirely different.

    This is obviously just my opinion and a friendly suggestion. Do what you want with it but please be nice to yourself. Have a great day.