• DarkThoughts@fedia.io
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      4 months ago

      We have enough statistics to know that it isn’t. It’s just that assholes always stand out among others, and the pool of good people is generally lower because when people try to date they will fish in a pond full of people who got rejected for obvious reasons, while all the good fish are already on a platter. Or something like this, I got lost in the analogy.

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      4 months ago

      It’s not true it’s just a way people argue in bad faith. If you are worse than a bear you are a threat to be managed and it’s a motive to exclude you from society.

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        4 months ago

        motive to exclude you from society.

        Except society doesn’t do that.

        Source: almost every woman you know has been assaulted. Almost none of their assaulters are in jail.

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          I’ve spent three days in jail because I broke up with my ex and she went to the police and told them I hit her.

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            4 months ago

            A person who bragged about barging into women’s change rooms and “grabbing them by the pussy” was elected president.

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                4 months ago

                It’s important to remember that misogyny and “the patriarchy” isn’t men vs women, it is men and women vs women. This is not about opposing sides it’s about unlearning harming behavior and rhetoric.

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                    Semantics a bit. The Patriarchy harms both men and women in almost innumerable ways, but it still exists primarily for the benefit of men.

                    While we will all benefit greatly from the eradication of the patriarchy, it is disingenuous to pretend the ways in which it impacts us are equal across the board.

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            4 months ago

            That sucks. I hope you never have to deal with that again.

            Of the fifty guys i know well, none have had that happen. Of the fifty girls I know well, there’s 49 who have been molested. (Fake numbers because I’m not going to bother counting, but it’s pretty much right)

            If I knew you better, I could add you to the pile of stories.