It’s the system that’s the problem. It was built for a society with a very homogenous and pacifist culture profile. That society no longer exists.
The majority in Sweden is going through a rather rude awakening right now and our systems are going to break a lot whilst our politicians struggle to bring them in line with our new reality.
Ukraine doesn’t use hospitals and schools as military infrastructure, or hide their soldiers behind civilians.
Not even Russia, as evil as their government may be, does this.
It is unsurprising that civilians get harmed when the Palestinian government in Gaza puts them in harms way.