If you judge someone’s look without sexualising them or even telling them (in a weird way), you’re not a creep.
The whole “it was just a compliment” crowd is wrong because the statements are not compliments. They’re usually overly sexual, predatory, in a threatening way, or very pushy.
That’s why it’s mostly not that “compliments are now illegal”, it’s just something else.
But if someone’s literally just saying something like “your hair looks great” without otherwise being pushy or intrusive, they’re not a creep! And calling them just proves the actual creeps right when they say that just every compliment counts as being creepy.
Yeah, that’s where I check out. I’m a guy. I know and interact with women. Sometimes I wanna be like Hey, nice dress, because it’s a nice dress, not because I’m thinking about abandoning my kids and leaving my wife over it. Instead I say nothing, because I understand that we live in a time where it might be misconstrued as sexual harassment. It’s dumb.
It depends on context. If someone says “a creep complimented my hair”, I’ll take their word on it. No need to be an ass and say “Well, if they were only complimenting your hair…”
Sorry, it’s never “only” a compliment. Women know when men are being creeps. Even the most vanilla compliment can be deeply inappropriate.
“Your hair looks great today”, he told her:
as soon as her boyfriend steps away
as she’s leaving the ladies room
while backing her into a corner
whispering into her ear from behind
while attempting to touch her hair
while staring directly at her breasts
I don’t wanna hear “but he only said” arguments coming from anyone who didn’t see how the creep said it.
If you judge someone’s look without sexualising them or even telling them (in a weird way), you’re not a creep.
The whole “it was just a compliment” crowd is wrong because the statements are not compliments. They’re usually overly sexual, predatory, in a threatening way, or very pushy.
That’s why it’s mostly not that “compliments are now illegal”, it’s just something else.
But if someone’s literally just saying something like “your hair looks great” without otherwise being pushy or intrusive, they’re not a creep! And calling them just proves the actual creeps right when they say that just every compliment counts as being creepy.
Yep.
Huh, thought you were just explaining that you were better than this. Oh well…
So according to you it is not ok to compliment strangers on their hair?
Yeah, that’s where I check out. I’m a guy. I know and interact with women. Sometimes I wanna be like Hey, nice dress, because it’s a nice dress, not because I’m thinking about abandoning my kids and leaving my wife over it. Instead I say nothing, because I understand that we live in a time where it might be misconstrued as sexual harassment. It’s dumb.
It depends on context. If someone says “a creep complimented my hair”, I’ll take their word on it. No need to be an ass and say “Well, if they were only complimenting your hair…”
Sorry, it’s never “only” a compliment. Women know when men are being creeps. Even the most vanilla compliment can be deeply inappropriate.
“Your hair looks great today”, he told her:
I don’t wanna hear “but he only said” arguments coming from anyone who didn’t see how the creep said it.