• Dozzi92@lemmy.world
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      3 months ago

      Yeah, that’s where I check out. I’m a guy. I know and interact with women. Sometimes I wanna be like Hey, nice dress, because it’s a nice dress, not because I’m thinking about abandoning my kids and leaving my wife over it. Instead I say nothing, because I understand that we live in a time where it might be misconstrued as sexual harassment. It’s dumb.

    • Todd Bonzalez@lemm.ee
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      3 months ago

      It depends on context. If someone says “a creep complimented my hair”, I’ll take their word on it. No need to be an ass and say “Well, if they were only complimenting your hair…”

      Sorry, it’s never “only” a compliment. Women know when men are being creeps. Even the most vanilla compliment can be deeply inappropriate.

      “Your hair looks great today”, he told her:

      • as soon as her boyfriend steps away
      • as she’s leaving the ladies room
      • while backing her into a corner
      • whispering into her ear from behind
      • while attempting to touch her hair
      • while staring directly at her breasts

      I don’t wanna hear “but he only said” arguments coming from anyone who didn’t see how the creep said it.