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  • I’ve managed people for a long time. I’ve helped develop and implement accomodations for people with physical disabilities, learning disabilities, trauma history, mental health issues, and more. What you’re doing here is painting everyone with a disability with one brush, where the reality is people with disabilities have a wide variety of needs and wants.

    I feel like you are coming into this conversation with a specific grievance about a specific meeting or group that’s starting without you. I’d challenge you to think inventively about how you can get your needs met while not externalizing your experience (“my dissatisfaction is everyone else’s fault”) and falling into resentment.


  • Reading your headline, I was thinking I was going to agree with you here. People who have lower incomes or who lack transportation absolutely have more barriers to overcome to be on time, and I genuinely believe grace should be given e.g. when arriving to work.

    But starting a large meeting on time is being ableist? I don’t know how else to put this…that sentiment is profoundly entitled. You want the entire group to wait for you because you had transportation difficulties? You want the entire group to extend the time they were planning on being on this meeting? What about people who have pre-scheduled rides who are going to have to leave on time? People who rely on family for transport?

    I fully support giving grace to people who have transportation issues, and supporting them in getting caught up on anything they may have missed. I will never abide a person who’s not on time who expects the world to stop and wait for them and calls them “ableist” for just holding a meeting as planned.