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Cake day: December 13th, 2023

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  • jak@sopuli.xyztomemes@lemmy.worldMommy's Choice
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    8 months ago

    It’s different for everyone, but I was always put off by kids for all the typical reasons (boring, sticky, annoying, etc.), until I got pregnant.

    I don’t mean that I love my kid so it’s different. I mean that the hormones associated with pregnancy changed all of my priorities. Thank god I had an abortion (I’d have a preteen with an alcoholic father and me for a mother- that’s not fair to a child), but it was much more difficult than I expected it to be.

    With the pregnancy hormones, I definitely would have cried at this ad. Congratulations to them for emotionally manipulating the most emotionally unstable group in the world?






  • This seems consistent with what I learned in CCD and Catholic school in the 90s-00s. We were always told that sexual pleasure was increased in a marriage and a sign of god blessing the marriage, whereas sexual pleasure outside of a marriage was cheap and damaging.

    Edit: side note, I didn’t think this fucked me up until I got married and realized I’d felt ashamed every other time I’d had sex. I never believed in god, and this is pretty obviously trying to steer behavior, so I thought I was unaffected, but it’s still a brain virus



  • You definitely don’t have to watch her! I liked that video a lot, but don’t care about tech, so I won’t watch her channel either.

    It just feels disrespectful to contradict someone we don’t know about the reason she acts the way she does, especially because she gives a logical chain for her beliefs.

    I don’t know if it’s a healthy way to deal with her trauma, but as she said, she’s just glitchy, as are we all. I can’t look down while going down stairs that I can see through, because my brain tells me they’re less safe than opaque stairs. Is that real? No. Does my understanding that it’s not real make my heart rate slower or my palms less sweaty? No, it’s a glitch. Mine’s more common and probably easier to empathize with, but if I only hung out with rock climbers, they might not understand at all. If they said I was playing a damsel for male attention, it would be infuriating.


  • jak@sopuli.xyztomemes@lemmy.worldIt's too damn cold!
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    8 months ago

    What does fat mean? I have a BMI of about 22, which isn’t overweight, but I have also been healthy with less fat on my body and I can pinch my stomach or thigh, so there is subcutaneous fat.

    I ask because my gallbladder hates it when I eat fatty foods, so other than a handful of peanuts or a couple tablespoons of oil or sauce, I can’t actually eat much fat. Can I just eat a lot more other food?




  • For me, the imagery of hyper masculine leather daddies was a eureka moment (what a fucking sentence). I don’t think they’re doing it to be ‘marketable’ to women or men (on an immediately, trying to attract someone that day basis), it seems much more obviously just a style thing.

    Plus, she’s right that she’d make more money with smaller breasts- a C-cup on her frame would probably appeal to more men, while looking natural enough that people like you might be interested in sharing her videos with others. I can’t imagine that’s new information for her (YouTube comments sections are not the most tactful places), so she probably would have tailored her look to appeal to more men over time, if that was her goal.

    She thinks that unless she’s wearing absolutely skimpy clothing that someone’s going to mistake her for a boy.

    I don’t think that’s likely at all, but I do believe her brain whispers that to her until she stops treating herself well. Mainly because truth is stranger than fiction- a 160 cm tall person (even in the most southern part of china, men’s average height is 168-170 cm) who has very long hair, shallowly set eyes, narrow shoulders, a high pitched voice and zero facial hair is not plausibly going to be mistaken for a man on a regular basis. That would be such a 4 year old lie to make up. Maybe she’s betting on that and it’s a ruse, but that’s a risky move if anyone who knows anything about Thai queer culture can out your lie.


  • It actually does. It’s a forty minute video and it was worth it for me, who had never heard of her and doesn’t care about tech at all (sorry lemmy).

    Tl;dw: imagine a woman talking about how Freddy mercury’s chest hair makes her uncomfortable because she thinks he’s peacocking for her. That’s you. It’s initially very understandable- you saw something with one known cultural marker and assumed it tracked, I did too. It’s just not the same cultural marker (just like a Chinese person without much international contact sixty years ago would probably have a very different assumption when looking at a picture of a woman in a western wedding dress).