It tells me that businesses have decided it’s okay to be obtrusive and rude.

I’ve had jobs where my income was heavily dependent on tips, so I keep that in mind when leaving a tip myself. I understood that tipping could be a sensitive subject, so I was careful to never make guests feel like it was mandatory or expected.

I certainly never asked for a tip before any service had been rendered - but that’s what has become normal for many businesses. The employees aren’t the problem. The owners/managers who choose the POS software are.

“What do we owe to each other in general?” is an excellent question. I’m not being shown the same degree of courtesy that I worked hard to show others, and that bothers me.

Nah, tip jars don’t bother me. What I don’t like is that the person at the register can immediately see exactly how much I’m tipping. It’s impossible to be discreet. If I’m leaving a generous tip, I don’t like to feel as if I’m showing off.

With tip jars, I make a point of tipping when the person at the register isn’t looking (like when they’re relaying my order to the kitchen or something). Maybe I’ll toss some money in the jar on my way out the door. When I’m getting table service, whoever waited on me doesn’t see the tip until I’ve already left the room.

I don’t like the Square POS (or whatever) because it turns tipping from a spontaneous, pleasant surprise to a in-your-face formalized routine.

I can’t blame you if you find my response frustrating. I’m fully aware that I’m being irrational.

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I don’t appreciate being asked for a tip when I’m eating at a place that only offers counter service. If all you’re doing is sliding a tray of food across a counter, then no, you don’t deserve to be tipped like an actual waiter.

To me, it should only “matter” for technical reasons - to help find the root of the problem and fix it at the source. If your roof is leaking, then fix the roof. Don’t become an expert on where to place the buckets.

You’re right, though. It doesn’t matter in terms of excusing or justifying anything. It shouldn’t have been allowed to happen in the first place.

Something as simple and obvious as this makes me wonder what other hidden biases are just waiting to be discovered.

A friend of mine somehow said “rad” in a way that was ironic, gently mocking, and sincerely complimentary at the same time. It was perfect. I don’t think I’ll ever meet someone else who manages to say any word in quite that way.

I didn’t realize a B-52 had never landed in South Korea before. I would have assumed it had already happened enough times to be completely unremarkable.

I understand your point. The authoritarianism and lack of respect for freedom of speech was what I had in mind, not international relations.

Careful, France, this sounds like something a Trump supporter would come up with.

I have. Sometimes, if I’m forced to attend an event at the house of someone I don’t like, I’ll wash my hands with it out of spite.

My hatred of throw pillows is so extreme that it borders on psychotic.

“They don’t serve any purpose besides getting in your way! What if you want to sit on the couch, but there’s already someone else on it? You can’t just put the throw pillow in their lap. You can’t toss it on the floor, either. That’s rude. I HATE THEM SO MUCH.” 🔪 🪶🪶🪶

I’m bewildered, too. The only thing keeping me from flying into a confused, indignant rage is the thought that a lab is kind of like a kitchen.

While it’s interesting to know that Target’s stated reason for closing the stores doesn’t seem true, I’d like to know what the actual reason is.

(That’s not intended as a criticism of OP or the author of the article. They’re not psychics.)

I misunderstood. If you’re participating in the process and doing what you believe in, that’s cool.

Reread the last sentence of the comment you’re replying to.

No candidate will ever be ideal, and apathy just makes things easier for the worst ones. Get off your ass and vote.

Whoops! Sorry.

Text can be tricky sometimes. Without tone of voice or body language, sometimes I don’t catch stuff.

No need for the text at the top. The pic itself is great!

People are allowed to make jokes, especially about things they can’t control directly. Read the room.

Those bastards can’t speak American, and they’re taking all those jobs away that I’d never even consider doing!