I’ve always gotten women way out of my league because they like my personality, and they say I’m a nice person and they feel safe with me. Guys, women have the bar set pretty dam low. Just use active listening, actually care about them beyond just their body, respect them, and it helps to have fun, interesting hobby, and to really like animals. Like that’s it, fellas. I’m in my late 30s, and my last girlfriend was in her mid-20s and way outta my league. Now it didn’t work because we are at different points in our lives, but that’s nbd.
Another thing is that a lot of really hot women don’t actually get picked up on very often, because most guys assume she’s out of their league. So if you put yourself out there, ya might be pleasantly surprised by the outcome.
Yeah, but how can I trust that assessment if you are lowballing your looks? I think we should see. Draw a photorealistic picture of yourself and upload, and I can judge.
I don’t like this being a focal point, but I think it’s worth asking if you don’t mind: what is your income like? Reality being what it is, that can make a measurable difference.
I’ve always gotten women way out of my league because they like my personality, and they say I’m a nice person and they feel safe with me. Guys, women have the bar set pretty dam low. Just use active listening, actually care about them beyond just their body, respect them, and it helps to have fun, interesting hobby, and to really like animals. Like that’s it, fellas. I’m in my late 30s, and my last girlfriend was in her mid-20s and way outta my league. Now it didn’t work because we are at different points in our lives, but that’s nbd.
Another thing is that a lot of really hot women don’t actually get picked up on very often, because most guys assume she’s out of their league. So if you put yourself out there, ya might be pleasantly surprised by the outcome.
I agree with you on that, but I usually get stuck in the just friends portion of the whole thing. Maybe I am a little too ugly?
Nah, the thing is, you need to declare your intentions fairly early on. Like with in the first few times you hang out.
Exactly, if you wait too long making the leap of faith, more often then not you will be already in the friend zone
I am not a fan of that term but yes that is very true.
Or are you just selling your looks short?
dude have you never seen couples? gorgeous women go out with totally average looking dudes all the time.
Lol no I’m short and fat. I have a realistic view of myself.
Yeah, but how can I trust that assessment if you are lowballing your looks? I think we should see. Draw a photorealistic picture of yourself and upload, and I can judge.
This but late 30s![](https://lemmy.world/pictrs/image/3078dfa4-0f7a-456b-8475-fd2486613868.jpeg)
Lmao. I wasn’t expecting a reply.
I don’t like this being a focal point, but I think it’s worth asking if you don’t mind: what is your income like? Reality being what it is, that can make a measurable difference.
I live paycheck to paycheck while being able to save a little for fun every once in a while.