There are some issues & experiences that women go through that men will just simply never “get”, and that’s fine. But invalidating the answers & experiences from women is why I believe there are no longer many women participating in conversations on Lemmy anymore.
I mean… looking at all this, why would they want to?
Is it controversial to say that I’d rather converse with a bear? Or do you suppose folks get upset about it?
Maybe, just maybe, folks who do not understand it should listen to what women have to say about it? But many are thinking about it completely removed from the contextual experiences of women. It’s… awful.
I completely agree. I don’t feel many women want to participate in discussions anymore because of what it turns into. I myself don’t want to because it’s a train wreck and it’s not like the people who don’t get it want to try to understand. Each post thread makes that more and more aparent. They seem more concerned with ripping it apart and making women’s very real concerns about their safety seem irrational and invalid.
Giving up on participating won’t help, but at this point it doesn’t seem anything will. It’s just easier to not waste the energy to argue something that a sadly large portion of people aren’t willing to try and comprehend.
Part of the reason many SA victims don’t report is exactly what’s happening with these posts. We aren’t taken seriously. We aren’t believed, we are gaslighted, we are blamed. We get dragged through the mud the entire way for being a victim and might not even get justice. Why go through that
I realized this a long time ago when I made a simple complaint that I thought women’s issues were downplayed a lot here, and in response I was downvoted, ridiculed, people demanded sources for my claims then claimed my sources were invalid for whatever reason they could pull out of their ass, and one person even, and trigger warning on this, told me I should die giving birth to a rapists baby.
I’ve even picked up a downvote stalker during the course of this whole bear thing. Same time every day somebody goes through and downvotes every single new thing on my profile.
So yeah, Lemmy’s never been a great place for women. I only continue to participate because I’m disabled and have so few connections to the outside world that I’ll take anything now.
There are some issues & experiences that women go through that men will just simply never “get”, and that’s fine. But invalidating the answers & experiences from women is why I believe there are no longer many women participating in conversations on Lemmy anymore.
I mean… looking at all this, why would they want to?
Is it controversial to say that I’d rather converse with a bear? Or do you suppose folks get upset about it?
Maybe, just maybe, folks who do not understand it should listen to what women have to say about it? But many are thinking about it completely removed from the contextual experiences of women. It’s… awful.
I completely agree. I don’t feel many women want to participate in discussions anymore because of what it turns into. I myself don’t want to because it’s a train wreck and it’s not like the people who don’t get it want to try to understand. Each post thread makes that more and more aparent. They seem more concerned with ripping it apart and making women’s very real concerns about their safety seem irrational and invalid.
Giving up on participating won’t help, but at this point it doesn’t seem anything will. It’s just easier to not waste the energy to argue something that a sadly large portion of people aren’t willing to try and comprehend.
Part of the reason many SA victims don’t report is exactly what’s happening with these posts. We aren’t taken seriously. We aren’t believed, we are gaslighted, we are blamed. We get dragged through the mud the entire way for being a victim and might not even get justice. Why go through that
I realized this a long time ago when I made a simple complaint that I thought women’s issues were downplayed a lot here, and in response I was downvoted, ridiculed, people demanded sources for my claims then claimed my sources were invalid for whatever reason they could pull out of their ass, and one person even, and trigger warning on this, told me I should die giving birth to a rapists baby.
I’ve even picked up a downvote stalker during the course of this whole bear thing. Same time every day somebody goes through and downvotes every single new thing on my profile.
So yeah, Lemmy’s never been a great place for women. I only continue to participate because I’m disabled and have so few connections to the outside world that I’ll take anything now.