My most common sin is inadvertently bringing up painful or offensive topics.
Someone’s dad died last week? You can bet I’ll forget and start talking about Dads on accident. In fact, it happens so often that I almost think my subconscious does remember and that’s how it ends up on my mind.
Generally stuff like that is held against someone when they didn’t even know their dad died, or didn’t realize that that particular person would overreact by being reminded of something that doesn’t seem associated.
Basically, caring far more about someone’s reaction than intent (or lack thereof) that accidentally upsetting someone is breaking a social norm.
If they wanted me to follow some rules that I’m apparently expected to know to make everyone comfortable, maybe they should’ve taught me that in school instead of trigonometry -_-
No, that would be your parents‘ task.
I used to think like this but let’s be honest, it’s not a fair shake. Social services should be somewhat capable of making up for poor, abusive, or absent parenting. School being the one social service children are practically guaranteed to interact with, it seems like a fair approach.